Day 7 positive talk

Day 7 positive talk

Sometimes pushing yourself to go harder can actually wear yourself it. If realised that if I want to be happy in life with good friends and a happy family, I need to remember what I’m doing things for.

I’ve said to my netball girls before, the happier you are, and the more you’re enjoying netball, the better they will play as a team.

I feel like it’s the same with every day life. If I’m constantly forcing myself to work just because I have to, then I’m not going to be enjoying it. How can someone perform their best when they are unhappy?

I need to create happiness myself. I’m the one who controls how I feel. I’m the one who controls how I react to something. I am the one who controls me. No one else. I’m the one who can make this life a happy life to live.

I’m the one who controls me 🙂

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Day 6 positive talk

Day 6 positive talk

So often I feel as though I’m not really worth second glance, or a second thought. I’m exceptionally average at everything I do.

I can do anything well, but I’m never the best. I’m okay looking, but I’m not a stunner, I can cook some things, but others I cannot master.

I’m just average…

but, as we are being positive here… I will say… I am strong. I am independent. I am worth something. I am motivated. I am unique and I am me. I am extraordinary, because I am the only one of me!

Day 4 positive talk

Day 4 positive talk

Okay,

So today I’m home sick again and I’m terrified of going back to work, just to be told I’ve taken too much time off.

So not really positive talk to begin wit, but you know what? I know I’m good at my job, I know I can make differences that no one else has. I’m strong. I moved interstate completely alone. I’ve taken chances to better myself and I did it all by my self. I left my home behind to work here, and like hell I’m going to give it all up now. I am strong. I will continue and I will prove myself.

If there is something you want in life, only you can claim it. People will test you, they will try to make you doubt yourself, But when you come out the other side, you will be stronger for it. You are worthy of your goals.

Day 3 positive talk

Day 3 positive talk

As I sit here home from work today, anxious that I will get in trouble for taking a sick day and not doing my job, I’m finding it difficult to think of something positive.

However, I set myself a challenge and I will see it through.

Although there are people out there that don’t understand and don’t know what to do when you tell them you’re struggling. You will come across some people that you just cannot live without, and who have made you feel worth something.

Today I am recognising the amazing people in my life, and how lucky I am to have them. No matter how you feel, your friends and family care. I have some of the best people in my life, and I am grateful.

Day 2 positive talk

Day 2 positive talk

Failure shouldn’t be so negative. I like to believe failure is just one of those hard lessons in life. I’m not a failure, I’m just still learning and growing. I have yet to be where I want to be. When I get to my success, I will know I’m only there due to those little failures teaching me lessons along the way.

A new challenge

A new challenge

Negativity, can rule an anxious persons life. I think I need some positivity in my every day thoughts.

I’ve decided to challenge my self to post a positive, or motivational post every day for two weeks. Not only am I hoping to improve my mental well-being, I’m also hoping that some people will be able to read the post, and feel, even just for a fleeting moment, better about themselves or their situation. Maybe some people will feel empowered.

I challenge anyone out there who reads this, to say something positive or encouraging to themselves every day. There is always something good in every day. Even when you feel as though the world is on your shoulders, there is something good in every day!

For example, when I was at uni one day in first year, i had a girl I considered one of my best friends accuse me of spreading some nasty stuff about her. That was the first of many negative things that day. Next I realised I had failed a term topic test for chemistry. Next I was late for a very important tutorial, and at the end of the day I had a migraine, a two hour trip home on a train, no pain killers and no water….that night I ended up vomiting and in bed before eating anything.

But, what was the good thing that happened that day? I hear you all asking. Well even though I had this thought the next day, I still reflected on something positive that happened on an awful day.

I remember looking up and the sky, blue, with whips of white, and thinking “how beautiful is this day”

As small as that was, it meant I was okay. I was okay enough to appreciate the day. Sometimes I feel that if I can find one thing to be happy about each day, then I am able to ground myself and not fall into despair. I can hold onto those positive thoughts and tell myself, that not everything is hopeless. It means that I have the strength to pull myself up and move on.

This one memory I often fall back to. I often remind myself of how I felt in that moment. I was okay. And if I keep finding the good in a seemingly dreary day, then I’ll be okay.

And so today’s motivation

After a storm comes the sun. Both are needed in life to grow and thrive.

Until next time…

When does my health matter more than my career…

When does my health matter more than my career…

I honestly like my job, but when do I say enough is enough. When can I put my health before my career?

In the short two years I have been working with the company I have been presented with some amazing opportunities. A lot of these opportunities involve travel. It’s a very unpredictable job. I don’t have a set 9-5 job… if something comes up, I’m there. And for the most part, I will sit there for a minute, then tell myself that I’ll get some good karma back my way if I do this.

Usually I don’t have a choice, if I’m asked to do something, I have to do it, it would be selfish not to right?

This year I started netball coaching, and I love it, but already this year, I’ve had to miss 4 training sessions.. the season only started a month ago. I’ve missed HALF of the training sessions. And I will miss another 3 for certain, this season.

I was brought up in a very good household. I was never babied or was given everything I wanted. I was raised with a Australian born German father. I was taught to work hard for what I want, and I do. I still will in the future…. but, I’m almost at the point where I need to decide.. do I do quit netball completely and just make sure I’m always available for work? Or, do keep juggling them both and keep letting my girls and my co-coach down.

She is not supposed to be coaching, she’s my mentor.. what kind of coach am I if I’m never there…

I’ve mentioned in previous posts how this year has been incredibly taxing on my physical and mental health, but it’s all come to a head. Work and social life are overlapping, old injuries have come back, new injuries have appeared, I have a constant migraine and I don’t even have any spare time go to the doctor without some questioning looks when I walk out the office early.

I’m good at keeping quiet and doing what I’m told. I don’t complain about being asked to do things that interfere with my social life, because work comes first. But what if I have no social life? What if I’m always so worried about impressing my bosses that I end up seriously sick.

I want to peruse a career that I love. One that I feel happy to wake up and go to work. Wherever it may be. I honestly enjoy my job. I went through uni to do this job, but something is nagging at me. Tugging my down.

I shouldn’t feel like I’m a disappointment to everyone, to my bosses, to my netball mentor, to my partner. This job is making me feel awful. Sometimes I wonder if I have convinced myself I like my job because I keep telling myself I do.

I would love to have a career making people happy, and encouraging people. Maybe I feel as though there is things going on within the company that I don’t agree with. Maybe I’m conflicted with what is expected of me and what I believe.

With all this stress going on at work, should I not be allowed to have some free time doing something I actually enjoy? I think I do deserve it. Work should not be my life, nor should it be anyone’s. Even if you love your job, make sure you give yourself some time, your family and your friends some time. There’s no point in working and making money if you have no life to use it.

My message to anyone reading, don’t give up your happiness. What’s a life without finding happiness. Find something that lifts you up, not something that drags you down. Your worth more than that.

Until next time…